Do Women Gain Weight After SCI?
Merrily Lunsford/Cape Cod Times
Saralee at home, using her cat and her shawl to hide excess baggage.
By: Saralee Perel
Last month, my local newspaper ran a special feature that included a picture of me. Two days prior to the photographer coming to our home to take my picture, my husband, Bob, decided it was perfect timing to say, "You need to lose 20 pounds."
Now, before you gather en masse with buckets of water to throw on his head, let me just say this: Tell me the time so I can join you.
Bob really did mean well. He said, "I watch how hard it is for you to get around since your spinal cord injury. It would be so much easier if you had less weight to move. I'm just trying to help."
"There is not one woman on God's earth who wants this kind of help. Last month, you bought me a scale with digitally accurate readings for heaven's sake."
"You asked me to!"
"You should have known I didn't mean it!"
After a day of sulking, I said to Bob, "But you know I've started to do a lot of walking. That helps my stamina."
"I know. And that's great. But you have no idea what kind of exercises could help you with things like getting up from the floor, or your balance."
"What does that have to do with 20 pounds?"
He was smart enough to resist tying exercise in with weight loss. I know I sound terrible. But really. Bob wouldn't gain weight on an IV of Velveeta Cheese. I just love being married to someone who has Domino's Pizza before 911 on his cell phone speed dial.
I dearly love him, in spite of the fact that his favorite dining companion is Oscar Mayer. Do I sound resentful? You bet I am. He thinks of peanut butter as a seasoning.
If you're feeling sorry for Bob, I don't blame you. But try to picture what it's like living with someone who thinks he's limiting himself by only having pizza on days of the week that end in DAY.
When I was a practicing therapist, I would tell patients, "Instead of holding your anger inside, you must have a heart-to-heart talk with your dearly beloved."
So I e-mailed my dearly beloved friend, Liz, and told her what Bob said about the 20 pounds. She is Liz Callahan, who e-mailed me because she read a story I have on the Foundation's website. Since then, we've become the best of friends. Liz is connected to the Foundation via her company, Versa AccessWear. I know this sounds like I'm plugging her company. Just so you rest assured, I am. As she puts it, it's "an adaptive clothing line for women with limited mobility looking for function and fashion." She's on the Shop for a Cure page and donates a percentage of sales back to the Foundation.
Okay. Enough of the good stuff about her. The reality is she is as much of lunatic as I am. Her reply to Bob's comment was, "Who wants to hear that? That would send me right to the chocolate chip cookies." I took Liz's wise advice and polished off all the cookies in the house . . . slowly, in front of Bob.
"Sweetheart," he said. "That's not the answer."
By then, I was using a sharp steak knife to get to the bottom of the peanut butter jar. "Oh really? Let's hear it, expert. What's the answer?"
Noticing that I had put the cookie bag and the peanut butter away, but still had the knife in my hand, serrated edge facing outward, he said, "I'm not sure you're in the best frame of mind to discuss this," as he crept past me, while keeping his eyes on the knife.
Then I asked my friend, Anne, for her take. She said, "When I was in the hospital and I asked my husband how I looked, he said, carefully, ‘Um – you look like you're retaining water.'" Now, that's a beauty. Make sure all you men remember that one, then see if you get lucky that night, or ever again for that matter.
Later, I found Bob in his study having his late day snack of herbal tea and a Big Mac. Gingerly, he offered me a French fry. I glared at him. He said, "Would you rather I lie to you when you ask me a thousand times if you've gained weight?"
"Yes of course."
"But I know you'll feel better and fall less when you exercise in ways that will specifically help your SCI. And if exercising and losing 20 pounds helps you cut off a few inches from your stomach – "
I stopped him mid-sentence. "Bob if you bring this up again, I can guarantee you that while you're sleeping, I will find something that I will cut off a few inches from."
He looked scared.
Now, there was a treatment idea I implemented frequently when I was practicing. When partners were at a defensive impasse, I would ask them to say to each other, "How can we make this better?" And that is what Bob said to me.
I replied, "By figuring out how I'll not only look 20 pounds thinner in 2 days but also how I'll hide my double chin." This did, in fact, turn us around. We laughed together sharing crazy ideas.
And, knowing Bob had been right all along, I got in touch with Donna Lowich, an information specialist at the Foundation, and asked her if she could help me find exercises. Donna, a warm and wonderful person, arranged it so that a DVD would be sent to me that would show various exercises.
Bob's first idea for the photo shoot: "Say you've converted to Islam and wear a burka so the only parts of your body that show are your eyes."
Then I tried a pose where I rested my hand, which is tiny, under as much of chin #2 as it would cover. Bob said, "You look insane. Hold that pose and look in a mirror." I looked. What that did was to move all of the extra flesh to one side of my face.
"I know!" I said. "I'll hold our cat, Eddie, under my chin. (Now that nearly worked but Eddie moved when the photographer took the picture.) "And I'll place the other cats in strategic places like my stomach and my thighs."
I tore through my closet and found a shawl from my days in the 60's – not that I remember those days too well. "How about if I wear this, Bob? And have it casually tossed over my shoulder so that it hides chin #2?" And that is what I did.
Finally, the photographer arrived and we got my picture-taking over with. When she left, I sat on Bob's lap and gave him a kiss. "I'm sorry," I said. "I know you told me about the 20 pounds because you love me."
He kissed me back. "Of course I love you. And you know what? Those extra pounds actually add character to your face."
I paused. "You didn't really say that, Bob. Did you?" He started to squirm. Then he added, "Sweetheart, I love you no matter what you look like."
Readers? Start filling those buckets of water. I'll meet you on our front step.
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Award-Winning columnist and novelist, Saralee Perel, frequently contributes her columns to us. Her newest book is Cracked Nuts & Sentimental Journeys: Stories From a Life Out of Balance. Read about her challenges after her SCI, stories of her caregiver dog, and her human family too.
For more information on Saralee, her book order information from Amazon or the publisher, even to purchase a signed copy, please visit her website: SaraleePerel.com.
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