Was Just Like Any Other Kid
By Joe Rhea
I was just like any other red-blooded American kid. I loved sports, and I wanted to be a professional baseball player. I was fortunate at the age of 8 to meet my baseball hero, Frank White.
Frank White was the second baseman of the Kansas City Royals, and my grandfather's favorite player. My grandpa and I would sit outside summer evenings on the back porch sipping tea and listening to the Royals on the radio. It was a great time in my life.
There stood Frank White. AT MY FRONT DOOR!
This was a dream come true for any 8-year-old boy who loves baseball. I was overwhelmed with excitement. I was bursting with joy and just had so many questions that I needed answered. So, over Cokes and pizza, Frank answered all of my questions.
"Do you hate the Yankees, too?" "How did your hands get so big?" "Who is your favorite player?" etc, etc. I was living a dream and never wanted the moment to end. Then much to my chagrin, my mother said that it was time to go to Cub Scouts. Ugh! Drats! Frank could see the disappointment on my face and calmly said, "I'll go with you to your meeting." The Cheshire cat didn't have a bigger smile than me. It just couldn't get much better than that. I was on cloud 9.
It was that night, that moment in time as I watched Frank White sign every autograph, shake every hand, and take pictures with all the other boys and parents, that I knew what I wanted to do. I wanted to be like Frank White. I wanted to have that kind of effect when I walked into a room. I wanted to be a professional baseball player.
I spent the next six years of my life playing every sport that I could play and playing baseball as often as the weather would allow it. Baseball was going to take me places. I was good, damn good, and I knew it. All I had to do was keep playing and stay the course, and I would reach my dream.
He cleared me to play, and I went back to practice on September 11th, 1984.
I remember that it was a hard practice. We were getting ready to play our cross-town rival, Oregon Trail Junior High. It was our biggest game of the season, so practice was very intense and the coaches were demanding perfection. The coach had called for the starting defense to be on the field. I started at defensive cornerback, on the left side of the defense. I was talking to my defensive backfield coach, Jeff Meyers, and I was laughing at something he had said when the ball was snapped. I turned around to see the tight end catch the football and run right towards me. Instinctively I ran at him to make the tackle, a play that I had made 1,000 times before. But I broke the one rule in football you should never break; I lowered my head to make the tackle.
I lowered my head and threw my body at him. His thigh hit the top of my helmet snapping my head down and then back. I hit the ground with all of my weight and lay there stunned. My ears were ringing, I couldn't breathe, and then I realized I couldn't move. It felt like my arms were missing, like they had been ripped out of their sockets. So as loud as I could scream, I yelled, "Where are my arms, I can't feel my arms, where are my arms?" What I didn't know was that my scream was barely as loud as a whisper. All of the breath had been knocked out of me. I was struggling for air, and I was trying to get up. "Why can't I get up?" I thought.
By now my teammates started to hover over me. I started to hear my coach yell at them to, "Get back, give 'im some air!" As he kneeled down over me, I looked at him and said, "I can't feel my arms, I can't move."
The day was September 11th, 1984, and my life would never be the same.
Just get used to it
I don't think in the history of the world anyone has ever truly believed it when they were told they would never walk again. You can't believe it, not at first. I simply chose not to listen when anyone mentioned anything like that. I made a promise to myself and to everyone in that room, if I was given an opportunity to recover, that I was going to do it, that I would play baseball again, play football again. Yet, they all looked at me with these sad eyes, as if I was in denial.
Well, seven days later, that opportunity showed itself. When I moved my left leg, it was the opportunity that I needed. I want this to be very clear, if my cord did not give me that window, that chance, I would not have recovered the way I did. No matter how hard I worked or what I did, it was contingent upon the cord. But once it did, I was like Rocky Balboa after Adrian woke up from a coma and looked at him in the eyes and said, "Win." It was on!
Battling to get better
After two years, I plateaued in my recovery; there were no more gains in the strength of my muscles. My injury is opposite what most spinal cord injuries (SCI) are: my arms are weaker than my legs, and my hands and wrists are even weaker. The average man squeezes 125 pounds of pressure; I squeeze 45 pounds in my left hand and 25 pounds in my right. I can barely open a Coke bottle. Typing causes me tremendous pain.
It's what you can't see
I wrote an essay for the Reeve Foundation a few years ago titled, "The Red Headed Step Child of SCIs." If I am standing next to another individual with an SCI, I may as well be non-existent because I don't use a wheelchair. I have a spinal cord injury, and it wears me down, and I suffer through it day in and day out, and no one knows.
No matter what I go through or what any other person with a SCI goes through, I don't want another single person to go through it. We need money for research for those of us who have SCI's, but we also need to convince people that most SCI's are preventable. I have spent the last 10 years of my life speaking to students all over the country about making good decisions, decisions that do not lead to catastrophic, life-changing injuries. It has been a passion of mine, and I am proud to say that I have saved lives and prevented injuries as a result, but we all can do more.
Today I can walk, run, snow ski down double black diamond slopes, golf with a handicap as low as 8.5, and do almost anything I want. I do it all with atrophied upper extremities, and with a lot of pain. But I also do it with a smile on my face. I know that even though I hurt and I feel mistreated at times, that it could be so much worse. I know this, and do not want anyone to think I feel otherwise, because I don't.
Sure, it took me a long time to actually figure that out, but when I did, it was like the world was lifted off my shoulders. I would be a liar if I didn't say I still have my dark days, or that I never ever said, "Why me?" But then I think about the other C4/C5 SCI-injured people I have met, and it makes me want to cry. I know how very fortunate I am, and that is why I do what I do today. It's why I endure the pain, because a part of me owes it to all those out there who can't use their hands or their arms. I am humbled and moved and honored to be able to do what I do.
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