A Day of Valor for My Hero Dog
By Saralee Perel
Our border collie is named Becky. I learned of her extraordinary heroism during a staggering experience at a lovely pond near our home.
One day I told my husband, Bob, that I wanted to try walking a short distance on the path around the pond again. Ever since my SCI, I've stopped trying many things I've loved and could still partially do, if only I had the courage.
Bob said, "But you could fall, even with your canes. And you can barely walk."
"I can't keep living life being scared."
Dog day afternoon
Like many partially paralyzed people, I don't get normal signals as to how high to lift my feet over branches and rocks, so I need to stop and look down to make sure I'm raising my legs so they'll clear the obstacle. To look at my surroundings, like the exquisite woods we were in, I need to stop and not move.
"Once you're safely over that log," Bob said, "you've got to stand still and hold on to me to see what's coming. You'll love what you're about to see."
I stopped, looked up and saw two beautiful, though immense dogs.
"They're gorgeous!" I called to two women with them.
Becky was panting with excitement. She wanted to play.
When Bob said I'm spinal cord injured and asked them to leash their dogs, one said, "They won't hurt her."
"My wife has no balance." Bob was frightened.
Becky, no longer playful, was now in a regal on-guard stance, bearing the ancestral majesty of a border collie in the Scottish Highlands. She was magnificent.
You fell on purpose!
"Please!" Bob said. "If they knock into my wife, she'll fall."
"Are you deaf? They won't knock into her."
"She could break her neck." He was right. Now he was enraged. "Put them on leashes!"
The dogs crashed into me and slammed me to the ground.
Neither woman asked if I was okay. One shouted, "You fell on purpose!"
Bob made sure I wasn't seriously injured. I didn't think I was. Then, he was finally able to hold on to one dog. He looked for its license number but the dog wasn't wearing a collar.
"Are they licensed?" he said.
"What's the number?" He took out his pad and pen.
They laughed, "Who knows?"
"I need your names and phone numbers," he said.
The women walked away, shouting again, "She fell on purpose."
Dogging the bad guys
Sweet Becky took out a dog's first aid kit - her tongue. She licked my knees so I'd feel better.
Bob and Becky began approaching the women. They said, still laughing, "You gonna follow us to our house?"
Bob said, "I'm following you to your car for your license plate number."
We could see that their car was only a tenth of a mile away on a dirt road far from any street. We never allowed Becky off leash although she was expertly trained and I knew Bob could call her back. He finally gave the command she couldn't wait to hear: "Becky, go!"
Her nickname is Becky Bullet. She got to their car before they did. Then she ran repeatedly from right to left, herding the group to their car door. Next, she crouched down in that intense border collie stare that meant, "Nobody move."
"We're calling the police," one owner said. "Your dog is vicious."
Knowing Becky wouldn't harm them, Bob said, "Go right ahead." (They never called. They were bluffing.)
They all rushed into the car and slammed the door. Bob had their plate number.
We drove to the police station. The officer made sure I didn't need a doctor, then listened sympathetically. We filed a complaint. "Just sign," a gal said, "so the animal control officer can go to their house."
I was afraid. Then I thought, "If I give in to fear, then I'm giving those women power over me. And I refuse to let them have that claim."
Whatever the officer said to them, it surely made an impact. Every time we've seen them since, they've quickly spun around and scurried away.
Maybe they took away my bravery. I hope that won't last. But there's something they can't touch. The heroics of Bob and Becky, the loyalty and love of my faithful, wonderful dog, and my unstoppable, though uneasy perseverance to never stop trying to face what I fear.
Award-Winning columnist and novelist, Saralee Perel, frequently contributes her columns to us. Her newest book is Cracked Nuts & Sentimental Journeys: Stories From a Life Out of Balance. Read about her challenges after her SCI, stories of her caregiver dog, and her human family too.
For more information on Saralee, her book order information from Amazon or the publisher, even to purchase a signed copy, please visit her website: SaraleePerel.com.
Saralee is also on Facebook. Visit her page, Saralee Perel Presents Gracie, My 4-Footed Coach.
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