5 Powerful Things I Learned When My Life Fell Apart | Ally Grizzard

Posted by Reeve Staff in Life After Paralysis on August 29, 2019 # Health, Lifestyle

1. Sometimes life gives you exactly what you needed, but in a totally different way than you expected.

Life has a funny way of looking after us even when we don’t see it. It tends to teach us many things. We don’t grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges. In fact, the most riveting times in our lives are usually experienced through the struggles and challenges; not from comfort or security. Chaos is created in our lives so that we can learn to appreciate the calm times a little more. Sometimes things are taken away from us so we may know what it’s like to truly appreciate their presence more. Perhaps sometimes we just need to be reminded of what really matters. I’ve come to appreciate all of the adversity that life knew I needed and gave me in a different way than I expected. The heartaches, difficulties, misfortune, and obstacles tend to make me see the impossible as the sun itself. They’ve given me a heart of gold. A core made of fire. A life soaked with full intention. Hope like another morning. I know how to start again all because of adversity. I know how to move through walls with palms wide open and how to begin at the edge and the end. The seasons of trouble that life throws at us really do teach us to be resilient, to have empathy for others and to be adaptable. They push us to break boundaries and find new dreams. Adversity happens to be the greatest education we could ever receive. Life throwing what I needed at me and not what I expected taught me to choose to learn to love my life and exactly where I’m at in this very moment, even if it wasn’t the life I had originally imagined, because the life I have today and all it includes or doesn’t include, is the life God has given me. It’s the only life I have, and the only life I’m going to get. I choose to live it with joy instead of letting it pass me by.

2. Time is the most precious thing of all and with it, you heal.

There was a time in the beginning stages right after my accident when I thought I would never heal. Every day was a constant battle. Not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally. I caught myself trying to rush my healing until I realized that constantly rushing the process wasn’t doing me any good. Rushing what I was picturing my life to be like in my head only gave me stress and anxiety about the situation. I quickly learned the reason for the setbacks life was throwing at me was for time itself. Sometimes whenever you find yourself with more time in the middle of the hardships, it’s because you need to reflect. Time and reflection tend to change the sight little by little until you come to understand the purpose and when you come to understand the purpose, you begin to heal.

3. The only thing you can control is your attitude. Towards other people, the situation and during progress.

It’s true- life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. Your happiness is 100% up to you and having an attitude of gratitude is a total game-changer. Life itself is worth gratitude. Whenever you find yourself starting to get mad about your situation in life, try to find what you are grateful for in that situation. Talk about what you are grateful for. Gratitude helps us to see everything we do have instead of everything we do not have. Know that every lesson you learn today is teaching you to be stronger tomorrow.

4. Share your story with others, even if it’s scary.

Sometimes speaking up and sharing your story can be scary, especially in the beginning, but you never know who you could be touching or inspiring with your story. You never know who may need a small ounce of hope to get through a time in their life at the moment and your story may be the one to help them. You could change someone’s whole perspective on life or a current situation they’re in and turn everything around for them. Someone out there needs you and your words, and you may come to find out that they too, can actually relate to you and also help you throughout your hard time too. So, share your story, even if it’s scary to do so.

5. Someday you will see that life actually wasn’t falling apart; It was falling into place - I promise.

Four and a half years ago, I was thankful for legs that could climb mountains. Today I’m thankful for lungs that can breathe air. Sometimes it can only take a split second for something you’ve known how to do your entire life to be taken away from you. Sometimes your whole life instantly changes out of nowhere and there’s nothing you can do about it. Sometimes you can be making plans and hear God laughing because he knows that’s not how it’s going to happen… (I promise he has a greater plan) and sometimes when you think your whole life and all you’ve ever known is falling apart, it’s actually falling together. God will throw a mountain at you just so he can teach you how to show others that it can be moved. That mountain will make you become more than you ever were before it was in front of you. It will make you strong. It will make you thankful. It will make you grateful and it will make you wise. I don’t think I’d ever change what happened to me. It made me who I am today and today I don’t count the number of times I’ve fallen, only the number of times I’ve gotten back up. That mountain- It’s given me way more heart than scars.

-Ally Grizzard

You can connect with me on Reeve Connect or Instagram @allygrizzard.

The National Paralysis Resource Center website is supported by the Administration for Community Living (ACL), U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) as part of a financial assistance award totaling $8,700,000 with 100 percent funding by ACL/HHS. The contents are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily represent the official views of, nor an endorsement, by ACL/HHS, or the U.S. Government.